Real conversations about imposter syndrome

For many of us, it’s that nagging feeling that we’ll be exposed as a fraud. For some, imposter syndrome results in high stress and anxiety because we’re never comfortable with our position or performance. At worst, it can spiral into a chronic lack of confidence and obsessive thinking, and I’ve been there.

At times of really high stress in my past, my mind would catastrophise, taking a small problem and obsessing about the absolute worst-case scenario. My rational brain knew those nightmares were unlikely, but I couldn’t escape the spiral. Labels are always a bit tricky, and to be clear, 'imposter syndrome' isn’t a recognised mental health condition. But becoming aware of our thoughts, realising we’re not alone, and learning some helpful steps can shift how we feel. The ideas behind imposter syndrome can be useful to understand.

What are some signs of imposter syndrome?

It might be:

• Feeling like you’re going to be exposed as a fraud

• Fear of not living up to people’s expectations

• Lack of self-confidence

• Comparing yourself to those around you

• Dwelling on the past and mistakes

  
  

Often, this leads to overworking, as we strive for perfection and push ourselves beyond our limits resulting in high stress, anxiety, and burnout.

If this sounds familiar, you are not alone. 62% of us have experienced imposter syndrome at work in the past 12 months.

Let go of your inner perfectionist

Most people with imposter syndrome are high achievers with even higher standards.

• Talk about it. Sharing your thoughts with someone, a mentor, coach, or friend, helps you realise imposter feelings aren’t ‘truth.’

• Be kind to yourself. Shift your self-talk. Learn from losses and move on.

• Record your success. Even small wins. It helps you see progress clearly.

• Say yes to new opportunities. Don’t turn down life-changing experiences because you’re afraid. They might help you grow, learn, or just have fun.

Let’s start a conversation. Have you experienced imposter syndrome? Can you share your story or offer a tip? We’re not alone, and we don’t have to feel this way, forever. If you want to chat in confidence, I’m here. Ben

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